After a while of wanting absolutely zero straight men looking at me, of hiding any signs of femininity in the hopes that I’ll be perceived as neutral… after all that, I’ve been dating someone who presents butch but celebrates femininity. She makes me feel good and strong and hot, like of COURSE I should be myself! Duh!
There are so many types of queer femmeness I’ve seen people define themselves: high femme, low femme, hard femme, soft femme, fat femme, vintage femme, witch femme, tomboy femme, genderqueer femme.
Here’s what I feel I most identify with:
- Lazy femme
- Woke-up-like-this femme
- Basic femme
- Academic femme
- Outdoorsy femme
- Shy femme
- Good girl femme
- Not-particularly-alternative femme
- Apathetic femme
- Owns-a-knee-length-tulle-skirt-and-is-still-looking-for-an-occasion-to-wear-it femme
- High-strung femme