Hello trans*/GNC/GQ/agender/questioning/whatevenarelabels people! Halp wanted!

Hey queer people and non-queer of various persuasions! A wonderful friend of mine needs all of yalls’ help conducting a survey for a psych class. If you identify as anything other than 100% cisnormative, take the survey! Not to be like an overachiever or anything, but it took me 10 minutes to fill it out (less than the 30-45), if you’re pressed for time. I was always a fast test-taker. But also I really had to pee.

Not only will this be doing Jay a huge favor but it will also be supporting the cause of better characterizing what gender-variant/trans/nonconforming people experience daily. Or something, I’m no psychologist. But seriously this survey is an Important Thing.
P.S. It’s totes 100% anonymous.

P.P.S. Feel free to send it along to all your other friends who fit this category.

See below.

Hello! I’m a psychology student at Sarah Lawrence College, and for my class I’m conducting a study on mental well-being and being trans, non-binary, gender non-conforming, questioning, or any other identity with a related experience. Because I’m looking at a wide variety of variables, I really need as many participants as possible! Participating in the study involves filling out an anonymous, primarily multiple-choice survey on a variety of topics related to gender identity and mental health. It’s totally voluntary. It takes about 30 to 45 minutes, and if you complete it you will be eligible for the chance to win one of three $25 visa gift cards. Please consider participating, and if you could pass along this blurb and a link of the study to others who fall under the above identity categories that would be really great. The study and more information are in this link: https://jay75.typeform.com/to/mRjlpm
Thank you!
–Jay Pulitano

Running on my own terms

I’ve run in one form or another since I was 10. It was around this time I started getting feedback about what running does to my body, and what people would see: people said I looked good during periods when I ran and lost weight; they said nothing during periods when I didn’t run at all. Thus was born my love-hate relationship with running and with my body. But during times when I do run, I do it for other reasons; I run because it feels good, because I feel useful, because it clears my head. I run to reclaim my body from a world that told me, “yes we are watching and judging your body, from the moment you leave childhood until the day you die.”

Anyways, I’ve been slowly getting back into running. Last night I ran to the climbing gym: 2.5 miles over a long-ass steep-ass tiring-ass bridge. I was thinking about how many things in my life are dictated by fear. I am not my fear, but it’s been a driving force. I am not my fear, but I’ve been enslaved to it. I am not my fear, but I live with it every day. I am not my fear, but my life would be different were I able to let my fear go.

I am not my fear.

I want to repeat this to myself often, because I associate independence with fear. Because often I act to avoid one thing rather than to gain something else. Because I’ve always been timid, even when I’m bold.

I am not my fear.

Monosyllabic words are perfect for a running mantra, because each word is a step.

Mantras can also take the form of a song, like this one:

I hope to learn how to run on my own terms.

An award for liebsters

Thank you ButchCountry for nominating me for a blog award! 🙂 These are a great way to get connected to new blogs. I wish they came with prizes, like hmm maybe a rainbow pack of hair dye and a starter kit for dying one’s armpits? That’s something I’d love to win…

Here’s the rules:

1. Thank and link the person who nominated you.
2.  Answer the questions given by the nominator.
3.  Nominate 10 other bloggers (or thereabouts).
4.  Create 10 new questions for the nominees to answer.
5.  Notify all nominees via social media / blog.

So I guess I answer these 10 questions and then ask the nominees another 10:

10 Questions :

  1. what is your favorite color? Green
  2. which would you prefer to live in City or Country ? Depends on life stage; city now, country later
  3. if given the chance to go to Mars (1 way trip) and take part in starting a colony , would you go? Nope. I’d be curious for sure but humans were not evolved to live there. Life would be a short-lived struggle. If the mission were of scientific importance though, sure. Besides, I’m curious how life on Earth will change before I’m curious how life on Mars will evolve.
  4. what’s your favorite season ? Fall! Winter! (my favorite seasons closely follow my favorite beer seasons).
  5. Domestic or Import vehicle? Neither, I wish I had a car; prob imported? I dont know. Was my bike imported?
  6. what decade do you wish you were a teen ager in? 70s. Or 2010s.
  7. Empire or Rebel? Rebel!
  8. if you could change the world in a profound way , what would it be? Clean drinking water for all
  9. Do you take your rights and freedom for Granted? Probably, but I express gratitude as often as possible.
  10. if you fart in a crowded elevator, do you blame the person next to you, or do you own it, rank smell and all ? Blame the person next to me. I’m not proud.


I nominate:





10 questions for you guys:

  1. What animal would your daemon (~spirit animal) be?
  2. What book genre is your life?
  3. If you had to wear one pair of shoes for the rest of your life what would they be? (it doesn’t have to be practical or even match your gender expression; I might pick some 4″ platforms!)
  4. What items would you take with you if you had to leave town today?
  5. What hair color would you dye your hair if professionalism weren’t an obstacle?
  6. You come across a genie who tells you zie (the genie is gender-neutral) can give you the ability to fly, but you have to give up eating any carbs forever. Would you pick flying over potatoes/cookies/rice/fruits/etc?
  7. Which celebrity would you meet?
  8. What would be your medieval profession?
  9. Is magic real?
  10. What one piece of advice has helped you the most?